As an adult who has gone through the low-down shits of relationships and up again, we, women still have doubts on how to impress or to understand what we are to men. We scratched our hair out figuring what is going inside the teeny weeny pea-sized brain of theirs. Although metaphorically speaking, men failed miserably at expressing their emotions; we have to admit that their sense of "coolness" is what appeals to us.
And because of his "coolness" and a "bullet-proof heart", we failed to believe there is a reason for all that has happened. Because we chose to dwell so much into believing that there has been a change of heart, we failed to see what has been neglected in the relationship and not a change of heart. Although there are times when you feel like screwing him (the one that you fancy and he didn't give you a second look) for making you look so desperately needy (although in most cases it is a fact! *gasp*), you have to admit that you are a "too easy" prey.
So, for the sake of keeping the dignity and pride we deserve, please study the list i've gathered from Habits That Wreck Your Relationship. Because i know how much dignity i had lost over the years that i do not wish for the same things to happen again to myself or any other innocent women. Let's dig into what men are thinking and how to avoid another breakdown where we can easily learn from this list.
- Men have a tendency to really like a low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationship. Because men are very lazy in general and it's exhausting when they need to work so hard to make someone and happy calm them down every day.
- If you and your partner believe that love means acceptance, pushing him to change and criticizing him is going to send him the opposite message.
- While the occasional mood swing can and should be forgiven being in a relationship with someone whose bad moods outnumber her good ones can make a man run for cover.
- Spending time with your guy is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there's a big difference between bonding and joining at the hip. Many men are attracted to secure, independent women.
- Accusing your men of cheating and questioning his wherebabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated and insulted. Jealousy in a relationship, or even personally, is the spiritual equivalent of dumping hydrochloric acid on the person.
- People tend to get lazy in their relationships, and while it is good to be comfortable, no one wants to be boring or to be bored. Men love to be seduced and romanced as much as we do, and a part of what makes the courtship phase of relationships so fun is the experience of uncovering the mystery of another and trying new things together.
Now after reading this, doesn't it sound so true? It is too real to notice it. We have all been so blinded by things that revolve around us that we have forgotten to notice all these traits and signs. Don't worry, it is never too late to learn. For everyday is a new lesson.
I am proud to say, Today i've learned to accept...
